If feeling unloved is hell and feeling loved is heaven, how do you know how to attract, experience, and give love?
Did anyone teach you? Model if for you? Orient you toward the traps, blindspots, and poor bargains?
I’m guessing probably not…
But the truth always feels like an exhale (and if it doesn’t, you’re not at the truth yet) and sometimes a powerful reframe can feel like a treasure map that fell from the sky into your yearning hands.
Here are 10 books that - had I read even one of these before I was 25 - would have changed the course of my relational and sexual life.
Thankfully, it’s never too late to remember what your soul has always known but your programming obscured…
Mate Selection
Getting to I Do
by Dr. Pat Allen
A practical and specific guide to courtship, man-woman dynamics, and the year before marriage…#1 on this list for a reason!
Women Who Love too Much
by Robin Norwood
Are you a daughter of an alcoholic/addict? This is required reading to understand why you keep choosing men who love too little, imaging that you can help them
Communication
Unbound
by Kasia Urbaniak
Learn how to ask for what you want, verbally and energetically
Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent
by Betty Martin
Are you giving or taking touch? Where does your pleasure lie? Get clear on energetic dynamics around sensuality and sexuality so you can turn on your skin and resolve performance-based assumptions in the bedroom
Conflict resolution
End the War with Yourself
by Byron Katie
Learn to question the assumptions and certainty that drives your suffering and superiority
Existential Kink
by Carolyn Elliott PhD
Take responsibility for the pleasure and arousal you experience from your struggles
Mothering
Being There
by Erica Komisar
Why freezing your career for the first 3 years of your child’s life may be the most important thing you may ever do as a woman
Portal
by Yolande Norris-Clark
The most inspirational book out there for pregnant mamas (and any woman who was ever born!); learn what “pain” really is and the path to blissful birth
Unconditional Parenting
by Alfie Kohn
Stop being a basic parent reflexively handing down nonsense and eliminate punishment and reward from your repertoire
Wifing
The Empowered Wife
by Laura Doyle
The updated iteration of The Surrendered Wife, this is my go-to resource for any woman who wants her man to change, but feels powerless to change him
And if you want it all between two covers check out my curated resource treasure trove, The Reclaimed Woman.
If you're ready to take a direct route to applying and testing out these curated resources, dive in to my Reclaimed Relationship masterclass.
Here’s to learning how to live as love, always…
XO,